turning it around
Jez, this is life speaking to you. You think everything…
Most of the time in my life, I wasn’t happy with my body. I almost hated it. I used to be really skinny when I was younger, so pants wouldn’t fit me well. The legs were always a bit too wide. I hated the way it looked. When I grew older, my thighs began to thicken. But again, I hated it. I hated the look it gave me; I used to refer to my legs as ugly and pear-shaped. I thought they would keep me from wearing what I wanted, or at least from looking ‘good’ in clothes. And then, actually only a few weeks ago, I realized how wrong I was. Let me explain.
We see so many ‘perfect’ looking girls in social media and TV every day, that we always seem to think we have to look like them to get to like our own bodies or even to become successful. (Everyone out there who doesn’t think like that: Whoa, YOU ROCK!) That’s how I used to think too for a long time. But just a few weeks ago, that changed.
Before explaining any more, quickly let me state this: I am not over-weighed or something, I simply don’t look exactly like the image society gives you of a ‘perfect’ body. My legs are a bit too thick, my waist is not that slim and so on and so on. That’s what held me back from loving my body for a long time. Having alopecia even increased that, but that’s another story.
I don’t know exactly why and how, but I started believing in two things: #1, either you love your body how it is or you move your ass until it is how you want it; and #2, either way, you have to love your body. In order to be happy, (and in my opinion, that’s what life is all about) you have to love and accept your body the way it is. Just think about it: It’s a wonderful thing you have it, and it’s simply incredible what your body is capable of. Plus, it’s your own. Together with your personality, it’s what makes you you. No-one can take it away from you. So shape it or take it (hell I’m proud of this phrase), it’s your choice! What counts is that you change something. Be it your body or be it your mind, but in the end, you should end up accepting and even loving your body.
For me, finally accepting my body included changing a few things in my life. I started doing sports a bit more frequently, and although the change might not be visible to those around me, it still changed the way I feel. I started believing that I can wear whatever the hell I want and that my body is sort of my canvas. By adding clothes I love, I can show people my personality. Forget people, I can show me how wonderful it is to simply be yourself and not care what anybody thinks of you.
Am I talking senseless now? Maybe. But my point is: By finally accepting my body, I also became more self-confident than I have ever been (still working on that though). It is so amazing what the world has to offer you if you just choose to look at it! Don’t waste the opportunity to appreciate the beautiful things in life that you can create and that already exist by worrying too much over your look! You’re beautiful!
Think of your body as a piece of art: It’s like your own personalized canvas. You can make it look however you like!
To sum the whole thing up for you (cause I slightly have the impression my whole talking was a bit confusing till now): >Love your body. It’s what makes you you and you should be proud of it. >Wear what you want. It could be a whole new form of your own art, or will at least make you feel better. >Stop comparing yourself to others! There’s literally no point in that, cause everyone’s different! Seriously, don’t try to please anyone but yourself. You deserve loving yourself just the way you are, no matter what they say.
So hang on there beautiful! You rock!